The Politically Incorrect Thread Feb 22, 2013 14:23:42 GMT -5
Post by cuckoo on Feb 22, 2013 14:23:42 GMT -5
This article doesn't bother me, except that I think he overstates the cataclysmic spiritual resonance of Fatal Attraction, admittedly a great film, for all male viewers (and to his subgenre list I would add the excellent Body Chemistry).
He seems to view people and their potential interactions as a chemist would view different elements and chemicals. Each in itself might be an indifferent thing, neither good nor bad; but one type of personality molecule that comes into contact with another of a particular type might be more likely to form a bond or catalyze a volatile chemical reaction.
As far as the female scheming aspect of his thesis, he even notes that, "Dangerous relationships don't take place in a vacuum. Most often, neither the man nor the woman have a clue about 'why' they are involved in relationships that could hurt them both."
Breaking it down like that Chuck, you've probably helped me to understand it a bit more in terms of what he's actually trying to say, I just steam rolled in thinking that he was just writing a general stereotypical over-view of people with personality disorders and putting a stereotypical women are evil slate to it.
You put it into a really good perspective, I like your thinking and views on topics.
I was reading another article also about "Dangerous Men" this was written by a female psychiatrist and sort of covers the same kind of topics but with men.
Do you think this stereotypes and says the wrong things or does it have a better meaning?
This article doesn't bother me either, largely for the same reasons. The author doesn't seem to be describing all men, but rather particular neurotic types. She does, however, concede the existence of personal experiences that have helped to shape her interpretations, which perhaps gives the article an air of mild hysteria or a sense of unnecessary panic.
The majority of male-female relationships and others are probably dysfunctional at this point in western civilization given the discombobulation of sex roles precipitated by social engineering over the last several decades. I know I'm probably not what a psychiatrist would classify as a healthy or ideally formed individual, but the obsession with interpersonal relationship perfection is largely an artificially dictated problem, I think. The media constantly bombard us with images of true love and personal fulfillment which, for most people, are simply unrealistic.
The idea that everyone has to be happy at all times is responsible for a lot of society's ills, I would argue. Humans used to have it a lot rougher than today in terms of the conveniences and amenities life has to offer, and probably took for granted that existence comes with a certain degree of misery. I'm fond of Blaise Pascal's reflection that all of man's problems derive from his not being able to sit quietly in a room by himself. But then I'm a misanthropic recluse, so it probably sounds better to me than most people.